是友還是敵?

朋友對你若即若離，你們的關系時好時壞，令你心生疲憊、招架無能，不禁心生疑惑：她究竟是友是敵？

1. Ashley looks at your brand-new skinny skirt and says， \"Those are so much cuter than the flares1) you wore yesterday.\" When you say you like both pairs， she replies ...

A. \"Suit yourself， but those flares truly need to go. Just being honest.\"

B. \"You need a new mirror then. Kidding!\"

C. \"Oh， that came out wrong. Sorry.\"

2. Zoe is so fun to hang with one-on-one， but in front of other girls， she sometimes acts like she barely knows you. When you mention her icy receptions， she ...

A. Shrugs and tells you she has no idea what you're talking about.

B. Rolls her eyes2) and says not to be silly—she just gets caught up in other conversations.

C. Tells you she's definitely not ignoring you and apologizes for making you feel that way.

3. You and Rhiannon made plans to hit3) the mall for a holiday shopping spree4) this weekend. But when Saturday morning rolls around， she's AWOL5). When you finally reach her on her cell， she says ...

A. \"Something else came up.\"

B. \"Was that today? I totally blanked6).\"

C. \"Yikes7)， slept right through my alarm! Meet you in 20 minutes.\"

4. You and Brittany are partnered up for a huge French class project and you're totally behind schedule. When you text her to meet you in the library after school to work on it， she ...

A. Texts back saying that she's super busy right now and that you should just finish it yourself.

B. Shows up 10 minutes late， without notes. Then she plays with the guys across the table the entire time.

C. Comes prepared with three fabulous ideas and sits down in the library with you 'til close.

5. You miss a couple of shots during last week's basketball tournament8)， and now your teammate Bree is hinting that you're to blame for the loss. When you remind her that it's a team sport， she ...

A. Says with a forced smile， \"Well， we'd be a better team if you were on your game9).\"

B. Reminds you that you did skip three practices this month， which could have something to do with your slipping10) skills.

C. Agrees， apologizes and tells you she just hates to lose.

6. You and Ella both auditioned11) for the school musical12). You snagged13) a role ... and she didn't. Now， whenever you bring up the big performance， she ...

A. Makes a snarky14) comment about your subpar15) singing talent at school.

B. Gets an annoyed look on her face and immediately changes the subject.

C. Asks you lots of questions about your part and tells you she can't wait to see you on stage.

7. You and your friend Emily have a Starbucks date on Sunday afternoons. You show up 15 minutes late and she ...

A. Blasts16) you out the door for \"wasting her time\".

B. Isn't there. Looks like she's even later than you!

C. Is sitting at your regular table with your cocoa waiting for you.

Results 看看你的測試結(jié)果

大多選A：敵對攻擊型

你的這位朋友常常表現(xiàn)得好像你的時間和感受對她來說都無關緊要，而且喜歡通過反駁你來打擊你，并從中得到樂趣，令你覺得自己微不足道。她這種令人討厭的行為很可能恰恰暗示出她極度缺乏安全感，想要通過貶低你來提高自信。那你的最佳選擇該是什么呢？與那些真正欣賞你并能公正對待你的朋友一起玩吧。和這類喜歡打壓你的朋友在一起對你來說沒有任何意義，所以從現(xiàn)在開始，不要再給她任何打擊你的機會哦。

大多選B：偶爾失衡型

這么看來，你的這位朋友偶爾會說錯話，還時常有些古怪的行為，但這并不意味著她想要打擊你。相反，她可能只是有些迷糊，需要“過濾器”來幫她理清頭緒。作為朋友，你可以試著充當這個“過濾器”，在她犯迷糊的時候試著幫助她認清自己行為方式的不妥之處。比如在她提出一些尖酸刻薄的意見時，直接告訴她你對這些意見的感受。通常情況下，像她這種類型的朋友都能夠從別人的反饋中學習并改善自己的行為，而你和她的關系也能變得更加緊密。

大多選C：全力支持型

你的這位朋友算得上是忠誠的摯友。當你需要她時，她一定會在你身邊幫助你，并堅定地表明你們之間的友誼對她而言有多么重要。但是，沒有人是完美的，再好的朋友也會偶爾犯錯，好在她會很快意識到自己的失誤，并不惜一切代價來彌補。擁有這樣的朋友非常非常棒，但是你要記住，一定不能把她對你的這種好視作理所當然。時不時也向她表明你對這份友情的重視以及你覺得自己擁有她這個朋友是多么幸運，這樣才能令你們的友誼更長久哦。

1.flare [fle#601;(r)] n. [#12316;s] (上瘦下肥的)喇叭褲

2.roll one's eyes: [通常含有不屑之意]翻白眼

3.hit [h#618;t] vt. <口> 達到；到達

4.spree [spri#720;] n. (短期無節(jié)制的)狂熱行為

5.AWOL: abbr. ＝ absent without official leave，擅離職守，開小差

6.blank [blaelig;#331;k] vi. 突然不記得，突然想不起來

7.yikes [ja#618;ks] int. <口> [表示震驚]呀！

8.tournament [#712;t#650;#601;n#601;m#601;nt] n. 比賽；錦標賽；聯(lián)賽

9.be on one's game: 競技狀態(tài)好

10.slip [sl#618;p] vi. 變壞，變差

11.audition [#596;#720;#712;d#618;#643;n] vi. 試演(或試唱、試奏等)

12.musical [#712;mju#720;z#618;kl] n. 音樂喜劇(一種穿插著歌舞場面的喜劇)

13.snag [snaelig;ɡ] vt. <美> 抓住(機會等)

14.snarky [#712;snɑ#720;ki] adj. <美口> 吹毛求疵的，尖刻的

15.subpar [#716;s#652;b#712;pɑ#720;(r)] adj. 平均標準以下的，不夠標準的

16.blast [blɑ#720;st] vt. 猛力投擲(或推送)