7 body language tips to boost your confidence提升自信的7種肢體語(yǔ)言技巧

河南固始縣高級(jí)中學(xué) 湯 潤(rùn)

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恰當(dāng)而又得體的肢體語(yǔ)言是提升自信的有效方式，是實(shí)現(xiàn)個(gè)人成功的重要因素之一。

難詞探意

1. rear /r??r/ n. 后部；臀部

2. intimacy /??nt?m?si/ n. 親密

People earn more when they boost their self-confidence. Confidence is a skill that you can improve through body language.

Practice smiling

Smiling can trick your brain into feeling happy, even when you feel sad as you're smiling.

When you wake up in the morning, stand in front of your mirror and smile at yourself.When you're in your car or alone at your desk,practice smiling. Be aware of the impact smiling has on other people, and remind yourself to smile more often with others.

Pay attention to posture

When you sit, your back is straight, your rear is against the back of the chair, your feet are flat on the floor, and you bend your knees at a right angle. When standing, you should be able to draw an imaginary straight line from your earlobe through your shoulder, hip, knee and the middle of your ankle. When entering a room of people or a meeting, correct your posture before you walk in the room.

Use power poses

Proper poses can impact your performance,as well as your success at work.

Select two or three poses that you might practice by yourself and in professional situations when you want to appear and feel powerful. Practice doing these poses every day for a few weeks until they feel natural.

Use engaged body language

Engaged body language gives you more confidence and sends powerful messages to others to win them over. It involves using open gestures, smiling, nodding, and mirroring the expressions and movements of the other person.

Think about upcoming situations in which you want to reach an agreement or win someone over. Practice the encounter beforehand using confident body language. In casual conversation,practice mirroring expressions and movements so you feel confident about it before your big meeting.

Remember your arms and legs

Crossing your arms suggests you feel defensive, self-protective, and closed off. Crossing your legs away from another person can suggest you dislike him or feel discomfort. Crossing your ankles can often signal you're holding something back and not expressing it.

Begin to pay attention to what you do with your arms and legs in certain situations. Notice how you are feeling when your arms and/or legs are crossed. What is the other person saying or doing, and why might you feel defensive or closed off?

Begin to change the position of your arms and legs. Crossing your legs at the knee for comfort is fine, as long as it's not combined with crossed arms.

Dress for confidence

Clothes do make a difference in how we perceive ourselves, and how others perceive us.Dressing confidently is more than wearing the trendiest fashion. It's about feeling good and having confident posture in all situations.

It's also about sending the right message to the people you are with. You can boost your confidence when you dress appropriately for the occasion, know the audience, reflect your personal style, and understand the impact of color.

Practice appropriate eye contact

Confident eyes impart a sense of intimacy in your interactions and make the other person feel more positive and connected to you. However, too much eye contact can send the signal that you're aggressive or maybe even a little strange.

If you feel uncomfortable making eye contact, start to get comfortable by practicing with family and friends. Look at them in the eye for about 50-60 percent of the conversation ideally.

Reading Check

Apart from the body language mentioned in the text, can you think of any other body language that helps to boost your confidence?

Language Study

Sentence for writing

Clothes do make a difference in how we perceive ourselves, and how others perceive us.

【信息提取】本句中的do用來(lái)加強(qiáng)句子的語(yǔ)氣， 常放在實(shí)義動(dòng)詞前或者是祈使句的最前面，有人稱(chēng)和時(shí)態(tài)的變化，意為“確實(shí)；務(wù)必”。

【句式仿寫(xiě)】他在英語(yǔ)學(xué)習(xí)方面確實(shí)取得了快速的進(jìn)步。

主題應(yīng)用·語(yǔ)庫(kù)構(gòu)建

Ⅰ. 熱詞積累

（一）肢體語(yǔ)言行為及其分類(lèi)

grin 露齒笑；咧嘴笑

smile 微笑

frown 皺眉

laugh 大笑

hug 擁抱

yawn 打哈欠

bow 鞠躬

bend 屈身

gaze 凝視；注視

glare 怒視

stare 盯著看

thumbs up 豎起大拇指

grab one's hand 抓住某人的手

hold one's hand 握住某人的手

look at sb in the eye 直視某人

tilt one's head from side to side 把頭從一邊向另一邊傾斜

nod to affirm 點(diǎn)頭確認(rèn)

touch the tip of the index finger 觸摸食指的指尖

shake hands 握手

kiss cheeks 親吻臉頰

sit with crossed legs 腿交叉而坐

twitch 抽動(dòng)；抽搐

fidget 坐立不安

place the thumb on one's cheeks 把大拇指放在臉上

hold your eyes for longer than a few seconds 注

視你的眼睛超過(guò)幾秒鐘

open palms 張開(kāi)手

slouch 無(wú)精打采地站（坐或行走）

shrug 聳肩

cover one's mouth 遮住某人的嘴

spread two or more fingers across one's mouth展開(kāi)兩個(gè)或多個(gè)手指遮住某人的嘴

institute a fake cough 假裝咳嗽

rub the nose 擦擦鼻子

divert one's hand from his mouth on purpose 故意把某人的手從嘴上移開(kāi)

scratch one's nose, eyes and ears 撓鼻子、眼睛、耳朵

cross one's arms/legs/ankles 交叉手臂/雙腿/雙膝

clench hands tightly 握緊雙手

rub hair through one's hand 用手撓頭發(fā)

shut eyes frequently 頻繁地閉上眼睛

facial expressions 面部表情

corporal expressions 肢體表達(dá)

eye contact 目光接觸

constant/strong visual contact 持續(xù)的/強(qiáng)烈的目光接觸

cultural body language 肢體文化語(yǔ)言

aggressive body language 侵略性肢體語(yǔ)言

gesture 手勢(shì)

head movements 頭部運(yùn)動(dòng)

（二）識(shí)別欺騙性肢體語(yǔ)言

keep a close watch on the eyes 密切注視眼睛

watch the hands of the person who speaks 注意說(shuō)話人的手

keep one's palms hidden in the pockets or

turned over 把手掌藏在口袋里或翻過(guò)來(lái)

consider how the person touches his face 思考這個(gè)人是如何觸摸他的臉的

be on guard around people who touch their faces

in any form 警惕那些以任何形式觸摸他們的臉的人

take notice of excessive scratching 注意過(guò)度的抓撓

（三）增強(qiáng)信心的肢體語(yǔ)言

practice smiling 練習(xí)微笑

pay attention to posture 注意姿勢(shì)

use power poses 使用有力的姿勢(shì)

use engaged body language 使用投入的肢體語(yǔ)言

remember your arms and legs 記住你的胳膊和腿（的位置）

dress for confidence 穿出自信

dress appropriately 衣著得體

practice appropriate eye contact 練習(xí)適當(dāng)?shù)难凵窠佑|

make eye contact 進(jìn)行眼神交流

（四）肢體語(yǔ)言新時(shí)尚

change greeting policy 轉(zhuǎn)變問(wèn)候策略

practice social distancing 保持社交距離

kick feet 踢腳

foot tap 輕拍腳部

foot kissing 腳吻

elbow touch 肘部接觸

butt bump 撞臀部

non-contact greetings 非接觸問(wèn)候

stop the traditional kiss greeting 停止傳統(tǒng)的親吻問(wèn)候

Ⅱ. 美句背誦

1. Body language is an outward reflection of a person's emotional condition. 肢體語(yǔ)言是一個(gè)人情緒狀況的外在反映。

2. Body language varies from country to country. When you communicate with foreigners,one secure way is to understand, respect and follow the culture. Understanding cultural body language in other countries is key to efficient communication, especially when we have not yet mastered a foreign language. 肢體語(yǔ)言因國(guó)家而異。 當(dāng)你與外國(guó)人交流時(shí)，一種穩(wěn)妥的方式是理解、尊重和遵循他們的文化。 理解其他國(guó)家的肢體文化語(yǔ)言是有效溝通的關(guān)鍵，尤其是當(dāng)我們還沒(méi)有掌握這門(mén)外語(yǔ)時(shí)。

3. Elements such as gestures, facial or corporal expressions that do not, as a rule, attract much of our attention are of great importance in our daily communication. 手勢(shì)、 面部表情或肢體表達(dá)等通常不能吸引我們很多注意力的因素在我們的日常交流中是非常重要的。

4. It is teachers' body language that earns them credibility and determines whether learning processes will be fostered or not. 正是教師的肢體語(yǔ)言使他們贏得了信任，并決定了學(xué)習(xí)過(guò)程是否會(huì)得到促進(jìn)。

5. Although the students will not be aware of this fact, let alone be able to truly express it,they can nevertheless sense it and thus withdraw from learning activities in what seems to be a demotivated manner. 雖然學(xué)生們不會(huì)意識(shí)到這個(gè)事實(shí)，更不用說(shuō)能夠真正地表達(dá)它了，但他們?nèi)匀豢梢愿杏X(jué)到它，從而以一種似乎沒(méi)有動(dòng)力的方式退出學(xué)習(xí)活動(dòng)。

6. Whether in business or romance, some people use body language to convey false messages and to take in others. A person's body language will very often betray that a person is lying. 無(wú)論在生意還是愛(ài)情中， 有些人使用肢體語(yǔ)言來(lái)傳達(dá)虛假的信息， 以欺騙另一些人。一個(gè)人的肢體語(yǔ)言經(jīng)常會(huì)暴露一個(gè)人在撒謊。

7. Smiling can trick your brain into feeling happy, even when you feel sad as you're smiling. Be aware of the impact smiling has on other people, and remind yourself to smile more often with others. 即使當(dāng)你微笑時(shí)感到悲傷，微笑也可以使你的大腦感到快樂(lè)。要意識(shí)到微笑對(duì)別人的影響，并提醒自己多與別人一起微笑。

8. Proper poses can impact your performance, as well as your success at work. 適當(dāng)?shù)淖藙?shì)會(huì)影響你的表現(xiàn)，以及你在工作中的成功。

9. Confident eyes impart a sense of intimacy in your interactions and make the other person feel more positive and connected to you. 自信的眼神在你的互動(dòng)中傳遞出一種親密感，會(huì)讓對(duì)方感覺(jué)更積極，與你的聯(lián)系更緊密。

10. He who does not understand a look will not understand a long explanation either. 一個(gè)不懂眼神的人也不會(huì)明白一個(gè)很長(zhǎng)的解釋。

Ⅲ. 讀后創(chuàng)寫(xiě)

假定你是李華，你的愛(ài)爾蘭朋友Peter準(zhǔn)備暑期去你們學(xué)校訪問(wèn)。 請(qǐng)給他發(fā)一封郵件，要點(diǎn)如下：

1. 表示歡迎；

2. 介紹中國(guó)的肢體語(yǔ)言。注意：

1. 詞數(shù)150左右；

2. 可以適當(dāng)增加細(xì)節(jié)，以使行文連貫；

3. 結(jié)束語(yǔ)已為你寫(xiě)好。

Dear Peter,

Yours,

Li Hua

Ⅳ. 主題測(cè)評(píng)

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