Our Parents Always Do Too Much

王秀鳳

Have your parents ever helped you with schoolwork or other projects？ Do you think they are giving you too much help？

Du Peng ， 18， from HeBei has a story to share. He said that while in middle school， his mother often signed him up for English speaking contests. To help her son win， Du’s mother once asked an English teacher to help write a speech draft.

“Although I got good results at the contest， I didn’t feel proud，” Du said.

Du is not alone. Nearly 90 percents of Chinese parents said that they have helped their kids too much in school， according to a recent survey of 1，504 parents done by China Youth Daily. Meanwhile， 70 percents of parents agreed that overparenting could lead to a loss of their children’s independence.

Children， on the other hand， want to do things by themselves. “ Doing things ourselves gives us a? strong sense of achievement，” said Liu Jiang ， 13 from Jilin. Eventually we will leave our parents. So it’s better to develop skills and live independently as early as possible.

Some， however think parents have good reasons to help.

Jiang Qi，12， is from Beijing. He said that his parents would sometimes help him by making PowerPoint presentations? and creating handmade works.

“ Our teachers have very high expectations for us.” Jiang said. “If my parents didn’t help me while other students still got help from their parents， I would be criticized for not doing as well as others. ”

“ If schools could set more reasonable criteria and stop unfair competition， the situation would be improved.” Jiang’s mother said.

生詞模塊

sign...up 給……報名參加;注冊

overparenting 過度照顧孩子;過度養育

independence獨立;自主

eventually 最終

achievement成就

presentation演示文稿

criteria標準;尺度

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我們的父母總是做得太多

你的父母曾經幫助過你做功課或其他事情嗎？ 你認為他們給你的幫助多嗎？

來自河北的18歲的杜鵬要分享一個故事。他說上中學時，他媽媽經常給他報名參加英語演講比賽。為了幫助兒子獲勝，杜媽媽曾經請一位英語老師幫忙寫演講稿。

杜說：“雖然我在比賽中取得了好成績，但我并不感到自豪。”

不僅僅是杜一個人。根據《中國青年報》最近對1504名家長進行的一項調查顯示，近90%的中國家長表示，他們在學校里幫助孩子太多了。同時，70%的父母一直認為過度照顧孩子會導致孩子失去獨立性。

另一方面，孩子們想自己動手做事。來自吉林13歲的劉江說：“我們自己動手做事會有一種強烈的成就感。”最終我們要離開父母。所以最好盡可能早地培養技能，獨立生活。

然而，有些人認為父母有很好的理由來幫助他們。

姜琦12歲，來自北京。他說，他的父母有時會幫助他制作PowerPoint演示文稿和手工作品。

“我們的老師對我們有很高的期望。”江說，“如果我的父母不幫助我，而其他同學仍然得到父母的幫助，我會受到批評，因為沒有別人做得好。”

“如果學校能制訂更合理的標準，停止不合理競爭，情況會得到改善。”姜的母親說。