愛你至深

\"You don't love me!\"

How many times have your kids laid that one on you?

And how many timeshave you， as a parent， resisted the urge to tell them how much?

Someday，when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a mother， I'll tell them.

I loved you enough to bug you about where you were going， with whom， and what time you would get home.

I loved you enough to insist you buy a bike with your own money that we could afford and you couldn't.

I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover your hand-picked friend was a creep.

I loved you enough to make you return a Milky Way with a bite out of it to a drugstore and confess， \"I stole this.\"

I loved you enough to stand over you fortwo hours while you cleaned your bedroom， a jobthat would have taken me fifteen minutes.

I loved you enough to say， \"Yes，you can go to Disney World on Mohter's Day.\"

I loved you enough to let you see anger，disappointment， .disgust and tears in my eyes.

I loved you enough not to make excuses for your lack of respect or your bad manners.

I loved you enough to admit that I was wrong and ask your forgiveness.

I loved you enough to ignore \"what every other mother did or said.\"

I loved you enough to let you stumble， fall，hurt and fail.

I loved you enough to let you assume the responsibility for your own actions ，at six， ten， or sixteen.

I loved you enough to figure you would lie about the party being chaperoned， but forgave you for it... after discovering I was right.

I loved you enough to shove you off my lap，let go of your hand， be mute to your pleas...so that you had to stand alone.

I loved you enough to accept you for what you are， not what I wanted you to be.

But most of all， I loved you enough to say no when you hated me for it. That was the hardest part of all.

“你不愛我!”

有多少次你的孩子把這句話強加于你?作為家長，你又有多少次按捺著內心的沖動不向他們解釋你的愛有多深?

終有一天，當我的孩子長大，能夠理解母親的各種良苦用心時，我會告訴他們的。

我愛你至深才打探你要去哪兒，跟誰去，什么時候回家。

我愛你至深才堅持一定要你自己掙錢買自行車，雖然我們買得起，而你買不起。

我愛你至深才保持沉默，讓你自己去發現你精挑細選的朋友其實是個令人討厭的家伙。

我愛你至深才逼著你把咬了一口的巧克力還給雜貨店，同時承認：“是我偷的。”

我愛你至深才花兩個小時督促你打掃自己的臥室，雖然這活兒我干起來15分鐘就足夠了。

我愛你至深才對你說：“好的，你可以在母親節去迪斯尼樂園。”

我愛你至深才讓你看到我眼中的氣惱、失望、和厭惡的淚水。

我愛你至深才不為你的失禮或其他不良行為做辯解。

我愛你至深才會承認自己錯了并請你原諒。

我愛你至深才不介意你說：“瞧瞧別人的媽媽怎么說，怎么做。”

我愛你至深才讓你蹣跚學步，品嘗跌倒、受傷和失敗的滋味。

我愛你至深才要你為自己的行為負責，不管你是6歲、10歲還是16歲。

我愛你至深才在猜出你總說聚會有大人在場是鬼話，并驗證了自己的判斷后，仍舊原諒了你。

我愛你至深才硬把你從我的腿上放下來，撥開你的手，對你的懇求置若罔聞。這樣你才能獨立。

我愛你至深才接受原原本本的你。而不是我所期望中的你。

然而最重要的是，我愛你至深才對你說“不”，盡管你會因此而記恨我。而這，也是最難的一個方面。