Whilst most of our friends are there for us through thick①thick 英 [θ?k] 美 [θ?k] n. 最擁擠部分;活動最多部分adj. 厚的;濃的;粗大的and thin and can always be relied on for a good time,we've all encountered the toxic friend.
1.Who initiates②initiate 英 [?'n???e?t] 美 [?'n???et]vt. 開始,創始;發起;使初步了解most of the contact?
Who initiates most of the contact is an important barometer③barometer英 [b?'r?m?t?] 美 [b?'rɑm?t?]n. [氣象] 氣壓計;晴雨表;顯示變化的事物in any friendship.
If you're mostly initiating contact, or always having to make the effort, start taking a step back to see what happens.You'll easily see which friends are meant to be in your life versus④versus 英 ['v??s?s] 美 ['v?s?s] prep. 對;與……相對;對抗those who aren't.
2.How do they make you feel?
How you feel in their company and how you feel once you've parted company is a great way to tell if you're in a toxic⑤toxic 英 ['t?ks?k] 美 ['tɑks?k] adj. 有毒的;中毒的friendships.
If you're left feeling drained, angry or even resentful,release the friendship.
3.Do they add or subtract⑥subtract英 [s?b'tr?kt] 美 [s?b'tr?kt] vt. 減去;扣掉to your life?
Do you dread meeting up with them? If there's no fun left in your friendship, it's time to break up.
Great friendships actually boost your immune system,while toxic friendships leave you feeling off balance.
4.Do they support your life goals?
Good friends want the best for you and are your biggest cheerleaders. Toxic friends will act jealous, mean spirited and may even try to sabotage your hopes and dreams.
雖然大多數朋友都能有福同享、有難同當,都能讓我們依靠,但是我們都曾遇到過“有毒”的朋友。
1.誰聯系得最多?
誰聯系得最多是所有友誼中的一個晴雨表。
如果大多數時候都是你聯系別人,或者你總是努力這樣做的話,你可以先停下來,然后看看會發生些什么。你會很容易地看出哪些朋友值得你交往,哪些則不值得。
2.他們讓你感覺怎么樣?
和他們在一起時你是什么感覺,和他們分開時你是什么感覺?這是區分你的友誼是否有毒的很好方法。
如果你感覺沒意思、憤怒甚至是怨恨的話,就結束這段友誼吧。
3.他們讓你的生活多了或者少了些什么東西嗎?
你害怕和他們見面嗎?如果你的友誼中沒有樂趣了,那就是時候結束這段友誼了。
偉大的友誼實際上會促進你的免疫系統,而有毒的友誼則會讓你感覺失去平衡。
4.他們支持你的人生目標嗎?
好朋友總是為你著想,也是你最大的支持者。有毒的朋友卻總是很嫉妒、刻薄,甚至可能會試圖破壞你的夢想和希望。