7件快樂的人不相信的事

1. Life is fair.人生是公平的。

Happiness isnt about always getting what you want. Happy people understand that sometimes life doesnt go their way； life isnt fair. What they do know is that you can only do your best， forgive yourself for what doesnt work， and let go when you need to.

快樂并非總是來自得償所愿。樂觀的人懂得有時人生不會一帆風順；它并不公平。他們深知，唯有全力以赴，且對失敗釋然于心，必要之時學會放手，才會幸福。

2. Suffering is bad.痛苦即不幸。

Suffering is an inevitable condition of humanity. You cannot survive this world without at least a little suffering. Happy people know a deeper happiness comes through surviving a deep pain. We learn what were truly made of when faced with such hurt.

苦難是人類不可避免的經歷。若經不得一點，便難存于世。樂觀的人懂得何為歷艱彌幸。當遭遇那些創傷之時，我們就會看到最真的自己。

3. Im in control of things.我是主宰。

As hard as you work， and as much as you try to plan it all out， youre just not in control. You cannot control the actions or thoughts of others. In order to reach happiness， happy people accept this inevitable truth and learn to be proactive rather than reactive to lifes surprises and mishaps.

無論你多么努力，不管你怎樣煞費苦心，你都不會成為主宰。你無法控制別人的行為或思想。為了活得快樂，樂觀之人會接受這個既定的事實，并學著預見人生悲喜，而非消極對待。

4. Everyone hates me.人人都討厭我。

This is a toxic belief and a delusion， yet sadly a great proportion of unhappy people fall prey to this， which is largely why they are unhappy. Happy people face the world with a healthy dose of curiosity and nonchalance. They are interested in others， yet not so dependent on being loved in a specific way. Making friends takes time. Thats all.

這簡直就是邪念和妄想，但不幸有相當多的悲觀人士落入圈套，這也是他們不快樂的罪魁禍首。在樂觀人士的世界里，有適當的好奇，也有適當的漠不關心。他們對別人懷有興趣，但又不太依戀特定方式的愛。交友需要時間，就這樣。

5. People are obligated to love me in a specific way.

別人就應該好好愛我。

If your happiness is dependent on how other people feel about you， you will never be happy. You cant please everyone and you certainly cant force anyone to love you in a specific way. Happy people accept the way their loved ones feel， and work at showing their affection and asking for what they need rather than expecting people to love them the way they want to be loved.

如果你把快樂建立在別人對你的情感之上，你將永遠不得幸福。你不能贏得所有人的歡心，當然也無法強迫任何人來如何愛你。樂觀的人在乎所愛之人的感受，他們努力表達心中的愛和需求，而非期待別人用他們渴望的方式來愛自己。

6. I cant.我不行。

If you believe you are incapable and let that belief keep you from happiness， then ultimately you give truth to a self-imposed fallacy. The only way to improve and succeed at anything is to try and try again. Consider this： who is your idol？ Do you think he or she is so accomplished through a life void of failure？ No！ They simply do not let their doubts keep them from happiness.

如果你認為自己欠缺能力并讓這個想法阻礙你的快樂，那么你終究會陷入妄自菲薄當中。萬事取得進步和成功的唯一方法就是反復嘗試。試想一下：你的偶像是誰？你認為他/她在整個人生中就毫無失敗的遺憾么？不！他們只是沒有讓自我懷疑阻礙了幸福而已。

7. I have something to prove.我要證明自己。

Unhappy people seek happiness through approval. Unfortunately， that approval is impossible to achieve because it is caused by a inner lack， which keeps them constantly striving. Happiness can only be achieved through self-acceptance. Yours is the only approval you need.

悲觀人士從贊揚中尋求快樂。不幸的是，由于內心空虛，那些贊揚并不能帶來快樂，如此便造成了奮斗不止的局面。而快樂單從自我接納中就可獲得。你真正需要的贊揚出于自身。

Word Study

forgive /f??g?v/ v. 原諒；饒恕；寬恕

Ive tried to forgive him for what he said.

inevitable /?n?ev?t?bl/ adj. 不可避免的；無法規避的；必然（發生）的

toxic /?t?ks?k/ adj.有毒的；毒性的

curiosity /?kj??ri??s?ti/ n. 好奇心；求知欲

Your curiosity must be well satisfied if you have no more questions to ask.

approval /??pru：vl/ v. 贊許；嘉許；認可；通過

strive /stra?v/ v. 努力；奮斗；力爭；力求

Strive for the best， prepare for the worst.