Ways to Get Over Shyness克服羞怯心理的方法

Shyness isn’t a problem. It’s OK to take time to warm up to new people andplaces. But shyness stops some people from being as comfortable2 as they’d like tobe. Some people want to feel less shy， so they can have more fun socializing3 andbeing themselves around others. Here are some tips for shaking shyness：

羞怯不是什么問題。花時間去熟悉陌生的人和地方是完全可以的。但是羞怯讓有些人無法像他們希望的那樣自在。有的人希望自己能不那么羞怯，這樣他們就可以在社交中享受更多的樂趣，還能在別人面前做自己。以下是幾個克服羞怯心理的小技巧：

1. Start small with people you know

從你認識的人開始做起

Practicedoingthingslikeeyecontact4，confident5 body language， self-introductions，small talk， asking questions andinvitations6 with the people you feel themost comfortable around. Smile. Makeyourself confident this way. Then try todo this with new friends， too.

和你覺得相處最自在的人練習做一些事情，比如眼神交流、自信的肢體語言、自我介紹、閑聊、提問和邀請。保持微笑，并用這種方式讓自己變得自信，然后試著和新朋友也這樣做。

2. Think of some conversation starters

想幾個開場白

Often， the hardest part of talking tosomeone new is getting started. Thinkof conversation starters， like introducingyourself， giving a compliment7， orasking a question. Being ready with aconversation starter （or a few） makes iteasier to get close to someone.

通常和新朋友交談最困難的部分是開場。想想開啟對話的開場白，比如介紹你自己、給予稱贊，或者問一個問題。準備好一個（或幾個）開場白會讓你更容易接近他人。

3. Rehearse8 what to say

排練一下要說的話

When you’re ready to try something you never do because of shyness—like aphone call or a conversation—write down what you want to say early. Rehearse itout loud， maybe even in front of the mirror. Then just do it. Don’t worry if it’s notlike you practiced or if it’s not perfect9. Few of the things more confident peopledo are perfect either. Be proud10 that you gave it a try. Next time， it’ll be evenbetter because it will be easier.

當你準備嘗試做一些因為羞怯而沒做過的事情時———比如打電話或交談———可以提前寫下你想說的話。大聲排練，甚至可以在鏡子前排練。然后就去做吧，不要擔心它是否像你練習的那樣，也不要管它是否完美。那些更自信的人做的事情也很少是完美的。你要為嘗試過而感到自豪。下次會更好，因為做起來會更容易。

Most of all， be yourself. It’s OK to try out different words and sentencesothers using. But say and do in your own way. Being the real you and confident iswhat makes people want to be your friends.

最重要的是，做你自己。嘗試用與其他人所用的不同詞匯與句子也是可以的。但是要用你自己的方式來說和做。做真實的自己并保持自信是人們想成為你朋友的原因。

（英語原文選自：kidshealth.org）

Notes

1. shyness 羞怯，害羞

2. comfortable 自信的，自在的

3. socialize 交往，交際

4. contact 接觸，觸摸

5. confident （性格，態(tài)度）自信的，充滿信心的

6. invitation 邀請

7. compliment 贊揚，稱贊；問候，祝賀

8. rehearse 排練，排演

9. perfect 完全正確的，極其準確的；完美的

10. proud 自豪的，得意的