Top non-verbal communication tips

江西龍南中學(xué) 曾志娟

非言語行為占據(jù)我們?nèi)粘Ｈ穗H交往中很大一部分，因而掌握相關(guān)技巧對我們的個人生活將有很大幫助。

題材 體裁 篇幅 建議用時語言交際 說明文320 6分鐘

While verbal and written communication skills are important, non-verbal behaviors make up a large percentage of our daily interpersonal communication.

Good eye contact is an essential non-verbal communication skill.When people fail to look others in the eye,it can seem as if they are trying to hide something.On the other hand,too much eye contact can seem aggressive.While eye contact is an important part of communication,it's important to remember that good eye contact does not mean staring fixedly into someone's eyes.Some communication experts recommend that intervals of eye contact last four to five seconds.

If you are confused about another person's non-verbal signals,don't be afraid to ask questions.A good idea is to repeat your interpretation of what has been said back and ask for clarification.An example of this might be, “So what you are saying is that...”Sometimes simply asking such questions can lend a great deal of clarity to a situation.For example,a person might be giving off certain non-verbal signals because he has something else on his mind.

Another important part of good non-verbal communication skills involves being able to take a more holistic （全面的）approach to what a person is communicating.A single gesture can mean any number of things,or maybe even nothing at all.The key to accurately reading nonverbal behavior is to look for groups of signals that reinforce a common point.If you place too much emphasis on just one signal out of many,you might come to an inaccurate conclusion about what a person is trying to say.

According to some,a firm handshake indicates a strong personality while a weak handshake is taken as a lack of courage.This example illustrates an important point about the possibility of misreading non-verbal signals.A limp handshake might actually indicate something else entirely,such as arthritis（關(guān)節(jié)炎）.Always remember to look for groups of behavior.

閱讀檢測

1.What is good eye contact?

A.Looking others in the eye for six seconds.

B.Staring fixedly into someone's eyes.

C.Looking directly and tell the truth.

D.Having eye contact every four to five seconds.

2.What should you do if you don't understand another person's non-verbal signals?

A.Give him a smile.

B.Ask for further information.

C.Tell him you're on his mind.

D.Give off certain non-verbal signals.

3.What does the fourth paragraph mainly talk about?

A.Look at signals as a whole.

B.Concentrate on your communication skills.

C.Ask questions about non-verbal signals.

D.Encourage listeners to use groups of signals.

4.Why does the author mention arthritis in the last paragraph?

A.To call on readers to understand others while speaking.

B.To ask readers to practice non-verbal signals more.

C.To tell readers signals can be misread.

D.To prove a single gesture is limited.

語言學(xué)習(xí)

難句分析

While verbal and written communication skills are important,non-verbal behaviors make up a large percentage of our daily interpersonal communication.雖然口頭和書面的溝通技巧很重要，但是非語言行為占了我們?nèi)粘Ｈ穗H溝通的很大一部分。

該句為主從復(fù)合句，while 引導(dǎo)讓步狀語從句，主句為“non-verbal behaviors make up a large percentage of our daily interpersonal communication”。