剛柔并濟的“孩子王”

刁艷杰

26歲的曹光洋是淄博市沂源縣第四實驗幼兒園的一名幼教老師。在從事幼教工作的兩年多時間里，這名90后大男孩既用母愛般的細膩柔情無微不至地關愛孩子，又用父愛般的堅強感染教育孩子，被大家親切地稱為幼兒園里剛柔并濟的“孩子王”。

6年前，曹光洋拿到學前教育專業的錄取通知書時，耳邊充斥著親友不理解的聲音。在大家的刻板印象中，好男兒應該志在四方，而不是在幼兒園里哄孩子。這些聲音也曾一度讓曹光洋對自己的選擇產生質疑。

2021年一次偶然的機會，曹光洋讀到一篇關于中國幼教事業的文章，其中提到男性角色對孩子的成長起著至關重要的作用，在幼兒園里更應該有男教師的參與。這篇文章讓曹光洋更加堅定了自己的選擇。大學畢業后，曹光洋毅然選擇了報考幼兒教師崗位，帶著家人的不理解和部分幼兒家長的不信任開始了他的幼教生涯。

2021年10月，一個平靜的早晨，曹光洋的內心卻并不平靜。因為，他的第一批學生即將到來。然而分離的焦慮讓第一天上幼兒園的孩子們感到不安，“找媽媽”“找奶奶”，此起彼伏的哭喊聲令曹光洋感到了幼兒教師的不易。看到前輩教師將哭泣的孩子抱在懷中，輕輕拍打后背的同時又加以安慰，曹光洋以同樣的方法嘗試著做了起來。作為男生，剛開始曹光洋還是有點不習慣，但看到哭泣的孩子們，他還是伸出手臂，一個一個地擁抱安撫，孩子們的情緒也有了很大好轉。

此后，曹光洋跟著班里的前輩教師從細節著手，慢慢學會了給孩子喂飯、穿衣服，教孩子們洗手，甚至還學會了梳頭發、扎小辮。每當午休結束，看到一些女孩的頭發和小辮變得蓬松凌亂時，他都耐心地幫她們一一梳理好。同時，曹光洋還帶著孩子們做武術操、打水槍、滾輪胎、搭帳篷、踢足球，用男子漢的堅強勇敢感召孩子。每當有孩子摔倒或者遇到做不好的游戲時，他都鼓勵他們要堅強面對。

漸漸地，曹光洋受到了幼兒園孩子的喜愛、老師的認可，許多家長也都愿意讓孩子入園到他的班。關于未來，曹光洋希望能發揮自身優勢帶給孩子們不一樣的童年，讓孩子們健康成長是他覺得最有價值和最幸福的事。

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“King of Kids” Coupling Strength and Gentleness

26-year-old Cao Guangyang is a male preschool teacher at Yiyuan No. 4 Experimental Kindergarten， Zibo. Over the past two years of preschool education， this post-90s young man has not only cared for children with motherly tenderness， but also influenced and educated them with fatherly adamancy. Thus， he is affectionately known as the “King of Kids” coupling strength and gentleness in the kindergarten.

In 2021， Cao Guangyang read an article about China’s preschool education by chance. The article has mentioned that males play a vital role in children’s growth， and kindergartens need male teachers. This article brought Cao Guangyang confidence in insisting on his choice. After graduation from university， he resolutely chose to register for the kindergarten teacher examination， and started his preschool career regardless of being not supported by his family and distrusted by some children’s parents.

Following his senior colleagues to start with details， Cao Guangyang gradually learned to help children wash hands， feed them， teach them to use the toilet， help them get dressed， and mastered hair braiding. In addition， he led chil- dren to do wushu exercises， play water pistols， launch a tire-rolling game， pitch a tent， and play football， inspiring children with manly strength and bravery. Whenever any children fell or met a difficult game， he encouraged them to face up to difficulties.

Gradually， the kids and teachers of the kindergarten have accepted and taken to him. Cao Guangyang hopes to give play to his advantages to bring children a different childhood， enable them to grow up healthily， and run joyously in their colorful childhood， which may be his most rewarding work and happiest thing.