我們為什么要接吻

Why We Need Kiss

T he average person will spend about 20，160 minutes of his or her life kissing.

A nd the world record for the longest continuous kiss is 58hrs， 35mins and 58secs， But why do we kiss？

Why did brains and bodies that love kissing become so common？ Well， a popular story holds that pacman’s shape was inspired by the shape of a pizza with a slice missing， but Toru Iwatani， the creator of pacman， admitted that was only half true. Paceman’s shape was also inspired by rounding up the shape of the J apanese character of a mouth. And its mouth and pacman’s favorite activity， eating， which together bring us closer to the heart of a kiss.

Any infant could have seen those benefits coming from a mile away， even though an infant’s vision isn’t that great. From birth to four months， babies can only focus on things about eight to teninches away from their face. which not surprisingly is about the distance to their mothers’ face while breast-feeding.

Anecdotally， what’s more likely is that the very act of rubber necking to see who’s watching causes people to look up and for your gazes to attach. But what about attachment when no one is watching？

In 1955.A .E.Fisher conducted an ex periment on puppies. His team separated puppies into three groups： members of the first group were treated kindly every time they approach to a researcher； members of the second group were punished for approaching the researchers and puppies in the third group were randomly t reat ed kindly or punished， they grew up never knowing what to expect， T heir world was not a world of kindness or punishment， but rather， one of uncertainty.

W hat ’s really chilling is that the st udy f ound t hat that group， the third group of puppies round upbeing the most at t ached t o t he res earc hers . The third group loved the researchers the strongest and was the most dependent upon them.

Guy Murchie call this\"T he polarit y principle\". S t ress， including t he ment al stress of uncertainty is ingredient in attachment or love. And perhaps even manifestations of hatred is polar opposite somehow enhance love. Uncertainty， psychologically can lead to some of the greatest feeling of attachment and dependence.

Good things and bad things in our lives often seem radom and out of our control. So it’s no surprise that we often react with blind， love and acceptance， in the face of unfair existance， because what else should we supposed to do？

We are that third group of puppies， But inv est igat ing uncert aint y， conquering it， so as to make the best decisions possible is advantageous， S o ov ert ime， lif e has f av ored activities that turn uncertainty into knowledge. Not every person out there is the best mate for you. But if you didn’t matter which one you picked， A kiss， a taste test wouldn’t be necessary， And it wouldn’t need to feel so good or bring us so much pleasure.

So go out there and kiss someone today.

平均每人一生中親吻的時間為20160分鐘。

世界持續接吻時間最長的紀錄為58小時35分58秒，但是我們為什么要接吻？

為什么人類熱愛接吻是如此的常見，在一則流行故事中提到吃豆人的形狀靈感正來源于缺了一塊的比薩餅，但是吃豆人之父巖谷徹承認這并非完全正確，吃豆人的形狀靈感也來源于一個閉合的形狀，也就是日文中“口”的形狀。吃豆人的嘴以及它最喜歡的行為吃，讓我們逐漸接近了“吻”的核心要義。

任何一個嬰兒都能看到從遠方來的好處，即使嬰兒的視力并非如此的好，從降生到四個月大時嬰兒只能將注意力集中在距離自己臉8～10英尺遠的東西上，在意料中的是這和母乳喂養時嬰兒和母親臉龐的距離相近。

有趣的是，人們伸長脖子東張西望來尋找盯著他們的人反倒造成了人們目光的交會，那么那種無人注視時的“依戀”又是什么？

1955年，A.E.在小狗身上進行了一項實驗，他將狗分成了三組：第一組的狗狗們在接近研究者時受到了良好的待遇，第二組在接近研究者時受到了懲罰，第三組的狗狗們被善待和懲罰完全是隨機的，們們在完全不知道能即將發生什么的情況下長大，這個世界并非盡是善行或是懲罰，而是一個充滿未知的世界。

讓我們震驚的是研究者發現是那一組，是第三組狗狗們最終對研究者的依賴最強，第三組狗狗們對研究者們的愛最深，也是最依賴他們的一組。

Guy Murchie稱此為“反向原理”，壓力包括心理壓力和不確定性是依戀和愛的原料之一，可能表現出的仇恨也會南轅北轍在一定程度上加深愛意，不確定性在心理上會產生一些最深最強烈的依戀和依賴感 。

我們生活中好事壞事看似隨機，也在我們控制范圍之外，因此我們常做出盲從熱愛或是接受的反應不足為奇，當我們面對所存在的不公平時，因為除此之外我們還能做什么呢？

我們就是那第三組小狗，而深究不確定之事征服它以做出最好的決定本身對我們有利，漸漸地生命中的大多事情都會將不確定性轉化成知識，并非所有人都是最適合你的伴侶。但如果你并不在意選擇哪個的話，若一個吻一個口味測試并非必要，并且并不需要這個吻感覺多好或是帶來多少樂趣的話。

那么今天就請走出房門給某個人一個吻吧。