Social Network Sites

王晶洲

I subscribe to Sherry's view. All the us are spots on the Internet. And the social network sites to us what the sun is to planets. Although we are assembled， the distance between us is still out of reach. Furthermore， social network sites not only make us be alone as before， but also ruin relationships between us. There are two contributors contributing to the phenomenon.

In such an imaginary world， the virtual way to communicate deprives people's ability to trust. Behind the screen， individual is prone to disguise their real emotions tn the platform enables individuals to show what they want others to see.

Using exaggerating literal expressions and sending polite emoticons and having more time to make a better reply establish a unreal world without eyes contacts， face-to-face intimacy and trust. Everyone is getting used to be in the circle of disguising himself and accepting cheating from others， which brings perils of losing trust.

Additionally the objective cause， individual himself also is one of the principal triggers.

Those sites are not just simple tools used to communicate， but stages to show off. The majority of the population enjoy displaying the best images of people and their success. One's flaunting， in reality， leads to a gap between him and his friends. Superiority， inferiority and indifference following everyday browse make such relationships in place of lasting emotions more fragile.

Above all， relationships are getting worse with the sweep of social network sites in the long run. They are designed to shorten the distance between individuals' addresses， not to increase the gap between individuals' heart. What a irony！

Now those tools have become accelerators to the deterioration in the social relationships.

我十分認(rèn)可Sherry的觀點(diǎn)，我們所有人都只是龐大網(wǎng)絡(luò)中的一個(gè)點(diǎn)，社交網(wǎng)站于我們而言就像太陽(yáng)與行星。雖然我們表面上相聚一堂，但實(shí)際上，人與人之間依然遙不可及。因此，在社交網(wǎng)站上，人們不但像以前一樣孤獨(dú)，并且人際關(guān)系可能會(huì)惡化。關(guān)于這個(gè)現(xiàn)象，有以下兩個(gè)原因。

在網(wǎng)絡(luò)的虛構(gòu)世界里，這種虛擬的交流方式使人與人之間缺乏信任。躲在屏幕后面，人傾向于隱藏自己的真實(shí)情感，這使得人們可以只把自己希望別人看見的一面展示出來(lái)。

人們使用夸張的文字表達(dá)，發(fā)送禮貌的表情符號(hào)，并且有更多的時(shí)間思考一個(gè)更好的回復(fù)，在這樣一個(gè)不太真實(shí)的世界里，缺少了眼神交流，面對(duì)面的親密與信任。每個(gè)人正在慢慢適應(yīng)這個(gè)偽裝自己并接受他人欺騙的循環(huán)怪圈。這是一場(chǎng)信任危機(jī)。

除了客觀因素，個(gè)人的因素也是一個(gè)重要的原因。

社交網(wǎng)站不但是一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單的交流工具，而是一個(gè)“炫耀”的平臺(tái)。大多數(shù)人會(huì)樂于展示自己最好的一面以及自己的成功。實(shí)際上，這種行為會(huì)使人與人之間產(chǎn)生隔閡。優(yōu)越感，自卑感以及冷漠無(wú)感在每天的瀏覽中滋生，使得情感變得脆弱。

綜上所述，在社交網(wǎng)絡(luò)長(zhǎng)期的使用中，人際關(guān)系可能在惡化。社交網(wǎng)站設(shè)計(jì)初衷是拉進(jìn)人與人之間的地理距離，而不是增加人心與人心之間的距離。諷刺的是，如今這些工具變成了情感惡化的加速器。

（作者單位：重慶師范大學(xué)）